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Me, too.

Me, too.

I posted this phrase on Facebook yesterday and then immediately deleted it. Because I have never been sexually assaulted, I thought it was disrespectful to those who had by posting it. I didn’t want people who have had it worse than me to think that I was disrespecting their experiences by sharing my own.

But that’s not what “Me, too” is about. It is about sexual harassment, assault, and all the times women are made to feel less-than. And it comes to no shock to any woman that this phrase is everywhere.

One night in New York City, I was walking excitedly walking down the street to see a Broadway show when I heard two men talking about me. The two of them were debating which woman on the sidewalk was the hottest. There were only two of us walking by them at the time, so they each picked one.  Nothing takes the wind out of your sails quite like that. Instead of all the excitement I had initially felt that night, my thoughts became fixated on that. Without even knowing me, these two men made me feel terrible.

I have been told what I can and can’t wear in order to “prevent” unwanted comments from men. Instead of calling out a person for being creepy, it is the job of the woman to do everything in her power to anticipate a creepy remark and dress accordingly.

I am so proud of all of these strong, important, and inspiring women for creating this movement. If you are surprised by the amount of people writing this, you need to reevaluate what is considered normal behavior.

By deleting my “me, too” post, I was telling myself that my experiences were invalid. But they aren’t. Every day women are being rudely reminded that there is still so much more that needs to be done in order to achieve equality. But, this movement is a step in the right direction.

Me, too.

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I Get to Wear My Hat!

Hi dear readers! I’m sorry that it’s been a while. I’ve been swamped with school, but I’m here now!

So, I have a fun story/ piece of news for you today. Hopefully this will make up for the fact that I haven’t written in a couple months.

When I was in the sixth grade I asked for a very specific thing for Christmas: a pea coat, a stylish winter hat, and matching striped scarf (all from Aeropostale of course). Now, I had a very specific purpose for this outfit. The plan was the next time I went to New York City I was going to wear my stylish clothes and walk around at Christmastime. Now, this doesn’t mean going to the Rockafeller tree lighting or anything like that. I literally just wanted to wander the snowy streets of New York and look at the festive lights… in a hat.

Now this might have made sense if I had any plans in the near future to go to New York in December. However, I didn’t go back to the Big Apple until high school and that was in October. So, I wore the scarf, coat, and hat for years but they never fully achieved their full potential.

Well, I have very exciting news today. I get to wear the hat this year! I am officially moving to New York City for all of next semester. I have saved my “New York clothes,” as I have called them all this time, and I cannot wait until the day I can rock my very outdated 2006 look in the random streets of New York.

So, look out everyone! Here comes Aeropostale clad Allie!

Tonight’s quote comes from my new obsession, “Hamilton.” Seriously, anyone who can turn the first Continental Congress into a rap battle is my hero.

“In New York you can be a new man.”

Love your neighbor as yourself and don’t forget to have a great day!

Allie

The Counselor and the Frog

Hey dear readers! I hope you are well!

So, today’s post is a story that I’ve been meaning to write down for quite some time. This is absolutely true. So, enjoy…

First, some backstory. This summer (if you don’t already know from all my hundreds of other references in the past) I was a camp counselor. Frogs are my favorite animals. Ok. That’s all the information you need.

Week two of camp this summer, my partner Hannah and I took our girls to the nature center so that they could see and hold some animals. We have all sorts of creatures there: toads, turtles, snakes, frogs, etc. The guy who runs the nature center (shout out to Keith) brought out a bunch of the animals for us to hold and I was given the most precious frog I had ever seen.

I, always the dramatic one, started telling everyone how cute I thought it was and how we were actually in love. It was a leopard frog without a name so my girls decided that it should be called Leo. Leopard frog… Leo… yeah my girls are the best.

It was then decided that Leo and I were going to get married. (Now I need to interject here for just a second… This was not my choice, however I should have seen it coming after how I was acting.)

Now a marriage after one day would have been a quick turnaround. And if I’ve learned anything from Lord of the Rings it’s that we shouldn’t be hasty. So, I told the girls that we would be getting married week 6, (conveniently) when they wouldn’t be at camp anymore.

Somehow this story took a life of its own. All of my cabins after that week knew about Leo, and helped me plan the wedding. Keith would ask how my dates were going and offered to officiate.

So, week six rolls around and everyone now knows that this is the week of the wedding. At this point I was like, “well I guess this is going to happen.” I was also extremely attached to Leo. He and I were pals. So the wedding was going to be on Wednesday, four weeks after I first met him.

On Monday night, I was hanging out on my cabin’s porch and my partner came back from her night off. She told  me that Keith had posted on the Facebook page that one of the frogs had died. He wasn’t sure if it was Leo and that when we came to the nature center the next day, I would have to figure out if Leo was still alive.

So, on Tuesday I had to break the news to my girls that Leo might not be living anymore. We went to the nature center and the stars aligned and Leo was alive! It was one of the other frogs that had died. The wedding was still on.

The day we’ve all been waiting for, he day of the wedding comes and Keith comes up to me during lunch and pulls me aside. He looks very solemn and tells me that “last night Leo passed away as well.” Leo DIED. Like what?! The day of our wedding!!! I wasn’t sure if I was sad or impressed by this amphibian’s timing. I planned the wedding four weeks in advance and then he DIES on the wedding day?

So at lunch that day, we all had a moment of silence for our dear friend, my late fiancé.

Well, that’s the story. I guess it’s not really an uplifting one… But it needs to be told because how ridiculous is that? Here’s a picture of us.

leo

May you rest in peace, Leo.

Today’s quote comes from another wise and wonderful frog, Kermit.

“When you decide what your Big Dream is, you’ll be bursting with enthusiasm and want to share it with everybody. Most everybody will give you one of those ‘OK, that’s nice, now please pass the ketchup’ looks. Some will scoff, suggesting that whatever your Big Dream is, it’s too big for you. And a select few will whisper words of encouragement. My advice is this: Pass the ketchup. Ignore the scoffers. And remember those words of encouragement ‘cause they’re the only ones that matter.” -Kermit the Frog

Love your neighbor as yourself and don’t forget to have a great day!

Allie

Can I be Honest with You?

Hi dear readers! I sure hope you are doing well. It’s been a while.

Today I had the chance to sit down with some dear friends and just talk about life. Sure, I didn’t get a head start on my paper like I said I would, but this was so much more important.

I am so incredibly lucky to be surrounded by people who love to be vulnerable. There’s no need to ask “can I be honest with you?” because it’s just assumed that we are going to be completely open with each other from the minute we sit down.

Tonight in the middle of Nashville’s best hot chicken restaurant, I talked to one of my best friends about adventuring and the best way to spread God’s love. She inspires me daily to be a braver and better person.

I then sat down with one of the wisest women I’ve ever met. We ended up talking about our future goals and fears. There’s such a pressure to be successful and completely fulfilled by your career, and it’s ok to be freaked out by that.

After leaving camp this summer, I made it a goal to be more intentional with my relationships. And I truly believe that this semester, more so than ever before, I have found my best friends in the world.

No matter what we talk about: food, Theta, homework, boys, or faith, I know I can come to them with anything and leave feeling better than when we started. That is what friendship should be, people who make you happy. If they don’t, if you leave their presence feeling bad about yourself, they’re not real friends.

So, take time out of your day to talk to someone important to you. You will never regret that decision. My heart is so full.

Tonight’s quote of the day doesn’t really have much to do with the topic, but it sure makes me laugh. This comes from one of my favorite authors, Lemony Snicket,  and one of my favorite books, “Horseradish.”

“If writers wrote as carelessly as some people talk, then adhasdh asdglaseuyt[bn[ pasdlgkhasdfasdf.”
-Lemony Snicket

Love your neighbor as yourself and don’t forget to have a great day!

Allie

Trying not to be Hasty

Hey dear readers! I miss you all!

This weekend is going to be one of the biggest of my life. There is a lot of pressure, excitement, and nerves attached to running a big event. So, in order to keep myself sane, I decided to do all my work to get ready while watching Lord of the Rings. For some reason, those films calm me down more than most things.

I remember last semester when I was doing Initiation for my sorority and that morning before the ceremony I watched most of Fellowship of the Ring. Those movies have always been my refuge and I’ve never really been sure why.

I think there’s something so encouraging about the fact that the least likely person takes on such a daunting task and succeeds. Frodo, with the help of his friends, is able to resist evil and corruption and eventually saves the world. That makes my task of running a big event seem small in comparison.

I’ve always admired and wanted to be more like Sam Gamgee: reliable, steadfast, kind, and brave. And it makes me laugh because the more times I watch it, I realize I’m actually Pippin: clumsy, hungry, loyal, and I swore my fealty to the Steward of Gondor.

second breakfast

But at least I’m not Boromir.

I have seen these movies countless times, some completely through with commentary, but they never get old. There is also always a quote to fit any situation in life. Here’s a list of some that you can use in every day life.

If someone is being selfish or wishy-washy, you can just yell this at them:

isildur

Any time somebody does something foolish:

fool of a took

If you ever get accused of listening in to somebody’s conversation:

dropping eaves

Any time you’re convinced that test did not go well:

you shall not pass

When you are only allowed two slices of pizza so you grab the biggest one you can find:

gimli

When you are just slightly late all the time:

precisely

If someone is upset that you’re late or taking too long:

hasty

And this one really isn’t a quote, but if you’re not walking into every building like this then you’re doing it wrong.

aragorn opening door

Well that’s really all I have for tonight. Tonight’s quote comes from you guessed it…. Peter Pan. No I’m just kidding, it’s from the Hobbit. I had this quote hanging next to my bed at camp this summer and it was kind of my mantra for the summer.

“It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to.”

Love your neighbor as yourself and don’t forget to have a great day!

Allie

Outta Time

Hey dear readers! I hope you are well!

I’ve come to realize that I don’t act my age.

I went to a dance party on campus yesterday that was disco themed and of the two-ish hours of music that I heard, I probably recognized four songs. And two of them were by Earth Wind and Fire. When I left I had a long conversation with my friend about “why would you ever want to take the words out of songs and just leave the beat?” “Why was there no swing dancing?” I just stood and looked at my friends who all seemed to know the music and I just laughed at the ridiculousness of my situation. I was completely out of place

However when I’m not being an octogenarian, I am acting like an absolute child. I spent the entire morning pretending to be the guy who sings the chorus from the song “Downtown,” crazy dance moves and all. (If you haven’t heard that song yet, it’s fabulous. Four out of four stars, would recommend.) I ate Count Chocula for dinner tonight.

It feels like my personality is a combination of everything that isn’t a twenty-one year old. I’m either using a coloring book or yelling for “you hooligans to get off my lawn.” But I’m cool with that, I guess.

I watched the Woody Allen film “Midnight in Paris” last night because it’s one of my favorites. I thought it seemed fitting since it’s about an old soul who feels like he was born in the wrong time. Not that I want to be living in a time any other than now, but it would make my love for 50s rock seem a little less weird.

I’m cool with being out of place in those situations. I’m an awkward human to begin with. That just makes the moments that are more my style that much better. Aka The Enchantment Under the Sea Dance from Back to the Future. It’s my dream to go to that. Unless I’ve already been there…. time travel.

My quote of the day comes from my hero, George McFly. I started doing my impression of his laugh at camp this summer and my campers looked at me and said “Allie, that’s your normal laugh. You do that all the time.” I wasn’t sure if I was flattered or worried.

“Yes. Yes. I’m George. George McFly. I’m your density. I mean, your destiny. ”

george laughing

Love your neighbor as yourself and don’t forget to have a great day!

Allie

It’s Only Tuesday

Hey lovely readers! I hope you’re well. I miss you dearly.

I’m having one of those weeks. You know, the week when you try to stay positive, but everything that you’ve ever committed to is happening at once? Yeah one of those. Sunday you say to yourself, “If I can just get through Tuesday.” And then “If I can just get through Wednesday.” And here I am already thinking “If I can just get through Thursday.”

I have stress eaten my way through an entire bag of crispy M&Ms that I bought on Saturday, and am almost done with a bag of Chex Mix. The only way I have been able to get through each day has been from the help of my good friend, Dr. Pepper.

I knew that I would be busier than usual when I came back to campus this semester, but it’s been hard to stay motivated. Harder than I had thought. I think it’s because I’ve been slightly disappointed. There were just things that I was really looking forward to this semester, that didn’t end up being as great as I imagined.

That’s the interesting thing about disappointment. You get excited about something and immediately blow it up in your mind, and create a hundred different scenarios about how it’s going to go. When it doesn’t meet your expectations, you feel like you’ve been betrayed. Which in retrospect seems silly, considering it was your own imagination that did that to you.

I do that to myself a lot. I get excited about things really easily. I like that about myself, but sometimes it’s hard. It’s hard to invest so much of yourself into everything. But, I’ve found, however, that it’s usually worth it. I would much rather get excited and be enthusiastic about everything and be disappointed every once in a while than be apathetic. Life is so much more fun when everything is “the best” or “the greatest thing I’ve ever done.”

A few campers this summer were imitating me and said “Hi I’m Allie and everything is awesome and I love breadsticks.” I was like, yup, that sounds about right. And that’s what I wanted my kids to see. In a world that has things like sticks made out of bread, everything really is awesome. If for a week I could make everything “the best,” maybe then they would have that mind-set as well.

Because disappointment is real. Not everything is “the best ever.” But the world is a cool place, and living life is super fun. I need to stop wishing away my Tuesdays and Wednesdays because they’re stressful. I need to embrace them for what they are: awesome.

In the midst of meetings, class, interning, and homework, one of my best friends took time out of her night to hang with me and eat ice cream. That was just the best. We then discussed which of us would be which member of 21 Pilots. I’m still not sure. It’s a very hard decision that will take some time. This sort of important life decision is not to be rushed.

So, to sum up all my ramblings (if you’re still with me, thank you kind friend) life is awesome even if it does disappoint you every once in a while. Also, according to how much I’ve mentioned it in this post, I really like food.

My quote of the day is this really great quote I found on the Interwebs.

“There’s a lot of stress out there, and to handle it, you just need to believe in yourself; always go back to the person that you know you are, and don’t let anybody tell you any different, because everyone’s special and everyone’s awesome.”

Love your neighbor as yourself and don’t forget to have a great day!

Allie